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Okini is a Lakota word meaning "to share material things"
Many Ways to Share
Imagine not having coats or shoes for your growing children or blankets for them or elders to stay warm in the bitter South Dakota winter where the temperatures can reach below zero. The Okini program allows us to reach out and touch peoples lives, letting them know we care. This is a unique program that allows individuals, families and/or with friends to share with the Lakota in different ways.
One way is the Okini list which is a list of families and individuals who are in desperate need of clothing, shoes, blankets, pots & pans, etc. These families in need have been listed by our intake coordinator. The wonderful thing about this program is that you are able to look at the list of people and families to see what you can help with. By offering a helping hand, you can help change their lives for the better.
This list is updated frequently with new families and shows what existing families have already received. You can choose to help an individual, part of a family or a whole family. The great part is that when you notify the coordinator with what you have, they will give you the individuals full name and address and you will be able to mail it to them directly. Your gift to the family will then be posted next to the families name. Imagine the happiness they have when they receive a box from a unknown new friend and realize that someone cares about them. It does not matter how much or little you send, you are touching some one's life. The items you send can be new or gently used.
Some of the sad stories are of a mother who can not send her children to school because they have no clothes or shoes that fit. A grandmother who has just received custody of her four grandchildren and they have no clothes other than what they are wearing. A family who has lost their belongings from a fire and have little clothes, blankets or heaters.
A Great Way To Get Involved
The Okini program is a wonderful way to become involved with the One Spirit family. As you can see, there are many ways to help and we are always looking for creative new ideas to expand our program. Please visit often as our list of needs is always changing.
“If each of us looks deep inside ourselves we will find that which makes a difference.”
A Sponsor’s True Story
For more insight about what it means to sponsor a child, One Spirit talked with John Carmen because over the years John has sponsored a total of five indigenous children from two different reservations. John began sponsoring kids over 20 years ago. The most he ever sponsored at one time was four. All are adults now. He sponsored them through an organization called Futures with Children that is no longer active.
Two of the children he sponsored moved away with their families when they were still young. That happens sometimes on the reservation. The other three keep in touch and now have families of their own. John also has a family of his own that includes 12-year-old twins. Now that his children are older he plans to become a sponsor again.
“I’d like to introduce my children to life on the Reservation. I want them to know about it,” he said. “And I really encourage anyone considering sponsorship to pursue it. Sponsorship is one of the deepest relationships I’ve ever had in my life.”
Following is his story:
John Carmen lives in northern California, a two-day drive from the Navajo and Hopi Reservations where five indigenous children he sponsored grew up. His visits there were rare due to the distance and time required to reach them. And the reservation families did not have phones.
His liaison from Futures with Children suggested that John write a letter each month to each of the children he sponsored. Instead John decided to write 52 letters per child per year – a letter every week no matter what. His liaison personally delivered his letters to the children.
The highest priority in indigenous cultures is for the education of their children. Indigenous children are respected. It is considered natural for a woman who gives birth to them to also educate them. So it helped to have the liaison there. Like a good counselor she would encourage the relationship and encourage the children to write back.
Eventually they all started writing back and answering John’s letters every couple of weeks. All except for one. . .
That child got a letter from John every week for a year and a half – 78 letters --before he finally answered and wrote his first letter back. By then he was in sixth grade. He was growing up on the Navajo Reservation raised by his grandmother in a hogan with no running water or electricity. His grandmother herded sheep and spoke only Navajo.
The boy’s father had left as soon as he was born, and his mother left when he was only five or six years old.
“Of course he didn’t write back to me right away,” John said matter-of-factly. “He didn’t want to be abandoned again.”
John said sponsors shouldn’t expect anything in return. “It’s important to give unconditional love. You know it’s not about me, it’s about them,” he added, “and if you do that…… well, my gifts from all five of them have been invaluable.”
He kept writing and became close to each of them. But he became closest of all to the boy who wouldn’t write back for a year and a half.
Eventually John made the two-day trip and visited this boy and his grandmother in their hogan. He took fruit to give them.
That boy went on to graduate from high school and go to a junior college in Santa Fe, NM. One day he telephoned John.
“I just can’t do this anymore,” he said. “All my friends back home are tellin’ me I’m trying to be white, that I should come back where I belong. I just don’t fit here and I’m not making it. It’s so hard.”
This often happens to youths who leave their home on a reservation to go to college.
“Well I can get you a tutor because I believe in you,” John told him. But the decision of course was up to the boy.
John didn’t offer advice or make a judgment. He simply asked, “What are those friends who are telling you this doing with their lives?”
The boy answered.
“I see. Just hanging out? Well are they doing any drugs or alcohol?”
“What would Grandmother say?” John wanted to know.
So the boy went home that week-end to see his grandmother. And all the relatives held a ceremony for him and prayed for him all day. Then he made his decision and went back the next day to finish junior college in Santa Fe. From there he transferred to college in southern Colorado where he got his civil engineering degree.
Today that young boy is a man of 35 with a wife and young child of his own. He telephones John on Father’s Day and calls him “Dad”. John thinks of him as his son and calls him that.
The first time he and his wife flew to California to visit John was the first time they had been on an airplane. John got a phone call from them asking, “Is Ontario close to San Francisco?” because they were at the wrong airport in Ontario, CA. So John asked them to find someone from the airline he could talk to, and the only person they could find was a man handling baggage. John spoke with the kind-hearted baggage handler who offered to walk with the lost couple to the correct gate and make sure they got on the right plane.
The highlight of that trip was the couple’s visit to Pebble Beach. Neither had ever seen the ocean. They just stared at it, inching closer and closer until finally they stopped almost at the water’s edge, staring with reverence at the vast stretch of water before them. John watched in silence. Eventually they gently touched their feet to the water. A few minutes later both of them were splashing and jumping up and down in the ocean laughing and playing like six-year-olds.
“That was magical to me,” John said.
During another visit he took them to the Top of the Mark Hotel for its Thanksgiving buffet. A beautiful view of the San Francisco skyline was behind them. Suddenly the young Navajo man dropped his head and tears streamed down his face. (He wasn’t trying to hide the tears. Hiding tears is not in their culture.)
John was concerned. “Are you all right?” he asked.
“I’m just so happy it makes me cry,” he answered.
The next day he said, “You know, John, we come here to visit you. You don’t have to take us special places when we come. We come to be with you.”
John observed, “I guess that’s why they call us human beings instead of human doings.”
Over the years John made six trips to visit all of the children he sponsored on both reservations.
He visited the young Hopi girl he sponsored before she grew up. She lived with her grandparents in a mud hut literally on top of a mesa. The rooms were divided by sheets. There was no glass in the window. One time John sat on the window ledge and looked straight down 300 feet below where her grandfather was a kachina dancer.
“I could feel more connected there than with people I’ve known for years,” John said. “You don’t get gratification like that here. If we just look to appreciate the diversity, then that sense of community that we all share emerges.”
“You’ve got to let go of your ego and truly step forward with kindness and compassion.”
He paused a minute and then quietly added, “You know in our western culture we’re taught to dominate everything, to control it. But native culture looks to life. Everything has energy and they see life all around them, life in everything. And a lot of love.”
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Many Lakota children on Pine Ridge Reservation need a sponsor. If you or your friends are considering becoming a sponsor, please call this number and we will answer your questions: 570-460-6567.
These families and elders are currently looking for sponsors:
Twins, new to the teenage years, would greatly appreciate having a sponsor. Their Grandmother, who has raised them, hopes that their sponsor will enjoy exchanging letters with them and becoming friends. They girls enjoy playing basketball, reading mystery books, and attending school. Family 140-02-1218-01
Grandmother is hoping that her grandson, age 8, will find a special sponsor. He is on the quiet side, a deep thinker. He enjoys drawing, coloring, and playing with dinosaurs to mention a few of his interests. His Grandmother hopes that his sponsor will enjoy exchanging letters him and eventually becoming friends. Family # 140-02-1218-02
Mother hopes for sponsors for her two sons. Son age 13 is all about sports. He enjoys playing basketball and football, skateboarding and riding horse. He hopes to be in the rodeo some day. He also enjoys reading, playing board games and drawing. His favorite subject in school is science. Son age 7 is all about being outdoors. He loves adventures, playing outside, playing ball with his brother, riding his scooter board. He also enjoys reading, drawing, and loves going to school. Family # 140-02-1218-03
Elder, raising precious grandchildren, would greatly appreciate having a sponsor. She looks forward to having a friend to share conversation or correspond with. One of her interests is quilting which she does to supplement her very minimal income. Family # 140-02-1218-04
Big brother has a special sponsor and this little lady, age 7, hopes to have a special sponsor, too. Some of her interests include playing outdoors with family and friends, playing basketball. She also enjoys coloring, playing with her dolls and going to schools. Family # 140-02-1218-05
Mother of three lovely little girls has hopes for sponsors for them. Daughter age 5 is outgoing, likes going to school, very interactive with people, enjoys writing, coloring, drawing, and riding her bike. Daughter age 2 likes to be read to and looking at picture books, runs around, rides her bike, likes water, is adventurous and a quick learner. Daughter age 1 is active, outgoing, loves to play outdoors, going for walks, riding her bike and loves to run. Family # 140-07-1218-01
Two creative teens. Their Mom would like them to have the positive experience of sponsorship. Daughter age 14 enjoys writing poetry and letters, listening to music, and applying makeup. Son age 15 enjoys drawing and writing, playing basketball and football. Family # 140-02-1218-06
A forty nine year old grandmother would love for one of her grandchildren, ages 2 to 7 to have a sponsor. She is unable to provide what they need and it would be an enormous help if someone could help by sponsoring even one of the children. This grandmother does have limited Facebook access which may work well with someone overseas. Family # 147-16-1218-01
A young mother who has three children would love to have a sponsor for each of them. She has an 11 year old son, a 9 year daughter and a 3 year old little girl and realizes that her children may all have different sponsors. She is a very caring mother and worries that the children don't have adequate clothing or presents for the important occasions in their life. Family # 147-16-1218-02
A mother of 3 children, who for the past year has been struggling with cancer and recently lost her job could very much use a sponsor to help her through these hard times. Family #150-12-1218-01
A single woman (49) raising not only her young children, but her grandchildren as well. There are 10 children ranging in age from 1-16 years old. She does the best that she can but most times the children do not have adequate clothing or food. A sponsor(s) would be a blessing to this family! Family # 150-12-1218-02
This elder is raising her 10 year old grandson on very little income. He is the light of her life and she often goes without to make sure he has food and clothing. He loves music and is currently learning to play the flute. A sponsor for this little family would be a blessing! Family # 150-12-1218-03
Thank you for your interest in the One Spirit sponsorship program. We will contact you soon!
Winter is far from over in South Dakota and there are many more families asking for firewood to stay warm. The temperature is up to 1* as of this writing.